Regardless of what you choose to do for living, support system is crucial, and it is vital that you surround yourself with people who support you and your career. More often than not, you can choose the people you associate with, which makes life easier. Sometimes it takes quitting jobs or moving to another state to get away from certain individuals. And then there are those very few, no matter what you do, you can’t get away from them. Let’s take a closer look at your support system.
People at work
One of the biggest reasons people quit jobs is because they don’t get along with someone at work, particularly if that someone is their boss. There is nothing worse than a boss you can’t stand. Very few things in life are more miserable than those Sunday night depressions in anticipation of seeing your manager the following day. I know, I’ve been there. I remember looking up from my computer to see my boss walking into the room and feeling my stomach twist in a knot. My contract there wasn’t up until the end of the month and I wasn’t sure I could take it that long. That job started to affect my health and wellbeing, so I told him I would not be extending my contract. An hour later I was escorted out the door with a box of stuff in my hands.
I also had jobs that were a lot less exciting and had little to do with the career I was planning to build at a time, but I had a great relationship with my immediate supervisor which made my experience working there a lot more pleasant. I learned early on in my career that at some places you can do your best, working hard to make people happy and no matter how hard you try it’s never enough. Then you walk away to another company and everyone will appreciate you just for being you. Of course, you don’t have to try hard to be yourself J
People you surround yourself with
Aside from work, your friends and family play a very important role in your support system. This becomes even more crucial if you chose to start your own business. The good news is that in spite of whom you fall for, you can still choose whom to marry. I am very fortunate to have a supportive husband who is there for me all the way, especially during the rough times when things don’t exactly go as I planned. Many of my clients who are currently going through a rough career transition are also married to a very supportive person, or so it seems. I think finding and surrounding yourself with people who see your value, encourage your growth, believe in you and want to see you succeed is the most loving thing you can do for yourself.
What about those you cannot choose? The ones that often make you feel frustrated and defeated. The ones that constantly nag you and question your choices in life, especially those wild and crazy ideas about starting your own business. “What were you thinking? Did you know that more than 60% of businesses fail in their first year? Why don’t you get a nice stable job with a secure paycheck and do whatever you want in your free time! Blah blah blah…” Sound familiar? Unfortunately, those are the people who love you the most and you can’t simply get rid of them just because they don’t support your dream. So, what do you instead?
The answer is, you forgive them, and you tell them you love them too. Because all and all, they are just doing their best to make sure you are OK. It is in their instinct and they cannot get rid of it. Every animal (we’re talking mammals, not reptiles or fish) has the instinct to ensure the survival of their offspring; there’s not much they or we can do about that. The best they can do is teach you what they know. Note, making sure you are wildly successful in your career is not their instinct. They only want to make sure you don’t fail.